There are lots of legitimate reasons why you might choose to keep a relationship secret from your family or friends. However, you need to be aware that by its very nature being in a secret relationship can be a risky business.
Firstly ask yourself why is it so important to keep your relationship hidden?
Is it your choice or is it something your partner is pushing for?
We work with many young people who decide to keep their relationship private because they are in a same sex relationship and they are not yet out to their family, or perhaps their partner is from a different race or culture that their family might not agree with. In these cases, sometime the family that we would like to support us are actually the risk.
Now families have a habit of surprising us – those that we thought would react badly, are in fact super supportive and understanding once they are given the chance. Most people’s folks only want you to be happy. So, take your time and perhaps give your family a chance – they might just surprise you.
© Going off the Rails 2014. Adapted from ‘Playing Downstairs’ by Jonny Hunt