Breaking up with someone who still cares for you
Relationships go through highs and lows and your feelings can change over time. In reality if you want a relationship to last it takes hard work and patience from both partners.
Sometimes however, it comes to a point when you are no longer prepared to put in the effort because you simply do not feel that way about them anymore. There is nothing wrong with that. People change and sometimes you outgrow each other. The fact is, you can’t make yourself be in love with someone. You may still care for them – and if you do then the best thing in the long run is not to pretend, but to be honest with them.
Telling someone you don’t love them anymore is hard – especially when they probably haven’t done anything wrong. Hurting someone you care about is never a nice thing, but remember it is far worse to be on the receiving end, so man-up and do it properly – have the respect to do it face-to-face not via text or MSN or your mate! It’s not nice but it’s the right thing to do.
Whatever you do though, don’t abuse the fact that they still feel more for you than you do for them. It is not fair to play with people’s emotions and you will only end up hurting them more. So, if you want to end it then end it. Don’t string them along…. And don’t keep sleeping with them either. It may just be sex for you – but for them it will be a sign that you still want to be with them!
© Going off the Rails 2012. Adapted from ‘Playing Downstairs’ by Jonny Hunt