One of the most frequently asked questions in all problem pages … some people say “be direct and just ask”, others rely on chat up lines and flirting. The most effective way is to get to know each other first.
So … how do you win them over and hope that they will go out with you?
- Ask them questions – be interested in what they have to say
- Listen to them – think ahead about the conversation so that you avoid uncomfortable silences
- Use humour – but don’t laugh at them. Stay safe and laugh at yourself, it shows that you are fun and recognise that you’re not perfect but you know who you are
- Think about your body language and theirs – if they’re backing away and have their arms crossed things aren’t looking too hopeful!
- Think friendship first, you never know this could then develop further or you may just have made a new friend