This page used to be called ‘saying no’ however, after talking to you lot – we have changed it to a much more sex positive page called “negotiating sex”. You told us that actually you wanted information about not only ways to say no, but ways to say yes and tell your partner what you wanted to do too. Also you wanted some information about hearing no too.
Often sex is something that happens rather than being something we plan for or think about how far we are willing to go or what we are ready to try.
Now is the time that you should start thing about your personal boundaries and how what you are ready to do.
I would like to…., but I’m not ready to….. yet
Generally when it comes to sex, we find it much easier to get naked with each other rather than talking about what we want or what we like to do and here lies the problem. Often people have sex because they don’t know how to say no, or haven’t had chance to really think about what they want yet.
© Going off the Rails 2014. Adapted from ‘Playing Downstairs’ by Jonny Hunt